Okay, I’ll admit I’m probably the only person left in America who has yet to see “Frozen”. However, today a classmate gave a speech over why it’s the best Disney movie. I’ll be honest, it didn’t catch my attention all too much since I haven’t seen the movie. But there was one thing that caught my eye. My classmate discussed how the movie “Frozen” preaches that women don’t have to rely on a man for happiness, and being single is okay (because your Prince Charming will come eventually). This concept is very rarely preached, especially when it comes to Disney.
If you know me at all, you know how stressed I can be about being single. When you’re younger, you always imagine that when you get to college you’ll be surrounded by so many new guys, and a relationship will be inevitable. I know it will happen eventually and I shouldn’t be stressed about it now, but everywhere I look there’s so much pressure to have a boyfriend.
Every time I run into someone I haven’t seen in a long while, their first questions always seems to be, “are you seeing anyone?” My immediate response is an eye roll. “No, I’m still single” I respond with a sense of irritation. When I’m in a relationship there’s no doubt in my mind everyone in the world will know, so there’s no use asking. Plus I can’t help but wonder why that’s everyone’s first thought when they see me. What about my grades? My friends? My involvement? My job? Those things define me more than a relationship ever will.
I know people get annoyed with me when I complain about being single, but I have to admit my fixation on it comes from society’s fixation on it. Every movie, book, or TV show I’ve seen the characters are always in a relationship. And when they’re not, there’s some sort of love interest in their life. But what about when there’s no love interest at all? So many of us spend so much of our youth without any type of love interest whatsoever, yet we’re never taught that it’s okay to be single sometimes.
I realize I’m still very young, and I have a lot of life left ahead of me. I get annoyed when my parents tell me when I stop worrying about it, someone will come along. However I realize that they’re probably right (cue eye roll) and I just have to enjoy my life now and not worry about the things that are outside of my control.
I’m glad that Disney is finally showing young girls that it’s okay to be single and you don’t need to be in a relationship to be successful or happy. I control my own happiness, and I have too much to be happy about to focus on the things that I don’t have. So whether someone has put a ring on it or not, we can still be happy.