Why Being 21 & Selfish Is (Sorta) Okay


They say your twenties are your “selfish years”.

Those years when you can focus on what is best for you, and no one else. They say, these are the years when you can explore new opportunities and focus your energy on figuring out who you want to be and what you want to do.

Now, when I say “selfish” I don’t mean it how you are probably thinking. I am not talking about ignoring others and only focusing on self involved interests. I mean it like these are the years when it is okay if you do not have everything figured it out. These are the years when it is okay to make lots of mistakes and to pick up the crumbling pieces afterwards. It is the time to create long lasting memories but also a time to take risks.

If you have read my blog before, then you know this is similar to what I talk about in a lot of my other posts. As a twentysomething herself, I oftentimes write about life from the view of a woman in her twenties. I talk a lot about being afraid of the future and of the importance of discovering who you are as a person. However, these are all things I firmly believe in. I have a lot of things figured out in life, but trust me when I say I do not have everything figured out. There are days when I consume entire boxes of mozzarella sticks for dinner, and other nights when I forego all responsibilities to spend the night at the bars with my friends instead of staying inside to study.

But I also realize that I will not be able to always do these sorts of things. One day, I will (hopefully) have a husband and children to take care of. No longer will I be able to spend countless hours watching Netflix in bed. I will also have a deteriorating metabolism and mozzarella sticks will not be the preferred choice of food. I will also have a full-time job and a reasonably early alarm, therefore bars on a Tuesday night will not be okay.

I guess what I am getting at, is that your twenties are a time to embrace life. Take new chances and go on adventures. Stay up a little too late hanging out with friends because they live five minutes down the street from you, and one day they will be thousands of miles away. This is the time to try out a new hobby or to go on a blind date because you have nothing to lose. Most importantly, these are the times where it is okay to do something because you want to or to focus on yourself wholeheartedly. I know I still have nine years left to be considered a twentysomething, but I have decided that I want to focus on today and the now, because tomorrow it will be gone.


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