Dealing with Those Who Dislike You

Today, I read a quote that really resonated with me.

“The way people treat you is a statement about who they are as a human being. It’s not a statement about you.”

Of course, I realize that not everyone you encounter in life is going to like you. Sometimes, it’s within reason. Maybe you hurt them, spoke an unkind word about them, or you simply do not get along. It could even be a feeling of mutual dislike between one another.

However, everyone once in awhile, we encounter another human being who just simply does not like us. It doesn’t matter how hard we try, how nice we are, or what we say to them. They simply do not like us.

I believe that this is one of the hardest things to cope with. I don’t think anyone likes hearing that someone dislikes them. It belittles us and makes us feel incompetent, unworthy, and insecure. It makes us question other relationships in our lives and we begin to reevaluate everything that we say and do.

Still, what another person thinks or says about us has very little to do with who we actually are as individuals. I think this is what resonated with me the most in the above quote. If someone speaks poorly about you, that’s on them. It has nothing to do with you. Typically, it is nothing more than a reflection of their underlying insecurity. After all, what would be the point of being so cruel to another person if you were confident in yourself?

“But I say  to you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you” -Matthew 5:44

Another quote that has always been a backbone to me is Matthew 5:44. I think that it is such a powerful Bible verse and quite frankly, sometimes unimaginable in today’s society. Loving people who hates you? That doesn’t seem right, with society’s obsession over revenge and whatnot. But it’s an important lesson. We should pray and wish for nothing but the best for those who dislike us, as there is not a worst thing you can have in your heart other than hate. I think that we can all agree that in times when we are so filled with rage and anger, it sometimes physically pains us. It definitely consumes us. And how much better is life when we are positive, happy, and filled with hope?

I have learned on this day that we will not always be able to please everyone. Along the way, we will run into people who only want to tear us down. The best thing that we can do is to remain confident in ourselves, and let those types of people continue with their hate, hoping that one day they will no longer feel the need to hurt others to make themselves feel better. The world is filled with so much hate, but I am going to focus on filling it with love.


2 thoughts on “Dealing with Those Who Dislike You

  1. You know, I was just about to start my own blog called “Sammi Says” and write some daily (or weekly) pieces of advice when I stumbled upon yours…We seem very similar in our beliefs and writing styles. It’s strange how we end up exactly where we need to be, somehow. I have been asking for a sign from God that everything is going to be okay, and I think I got it. Thank you for writing such inspiring and faithful posts. :)


    1. Hi Sammi! That is too funny, what a small world! I definitely believe God has a plan for everyone and everything works out the way that it’s supposed to. I am glad I could help you, as I am sure that you will help many people through your writing as well. Be sure to follow me when you start up your new blog so I can continue to read your posts! Good luck!


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