When it comes to being a twentysomething, I don’t think anyone has it figured out. I can’t remember what I had for breakfast this morning, let alone what my plan for post-graduation is. All I know is that Thursday night $2 double wells at Brothers is far more worth is than its Saturday night $5 counterpart–despite only a $3 difference. Hey, a college student’s gotta eat, ya know? That extra $3 can almost get me my favorite $4 meal at Wendy’s. I’m going to spare every cent I can.
Regardless, I did my best to come up with a few certainties that all us twentysomethings should know.
1. No one really has it all figured out, no matter what they might say.
And that’s okay. We’ll get to that when we turn 30.
2. It’s all going to work out.
I mean, when was the last time it didn’t? Life always has a funny way of working itself out.
3. No matter what your self esteem tells you, this is probably the best you’re ever going to look – so embrace it.
4. Standing on a scale every morning probably isn’t going to get you anywhere.
We all want to lose a few pounds. So, either be proactive or stop obsessing over something that isn’t going to make you feel any better (trust me, this one is easier said than done).
5. Don’t confine your life to a definitive plan.
Life is amazing, wonderful and also unpredictable. So plan for the worst, hope for the best, but don’t force your life to follow a strict path you set for yourself when you were 19.
6. Laying in bed until 4 p.m. and binge watching your favorite Netflix series isn’t necessarily a bad thing.
So what if you didn’t get dressed today and spent most of the day laying in bed, watching Netflix and reeling from your hangover from last night? One day when you’re a real adult with a family and responsibilities you won’t be able to do that anymore. Enjoy it while you can.
7. Your twenties are the most wide-reaching and vast decade of you life. Don’t compare where your at in this decade with where others are at – not all of life’s big moments happen for everyone at the same time.
Some people are married at twenty with a kid on the way, while others may be 29 and still looking for that certain someone. Others graduate on a strict 4-year plan, while some may take a little longer. Don’t compare where you’re at with where someone else is at, just as long as you are taking the appropriate steps to do something meaningful with your life and working hard at it. After all, that’s about all we can really do.
8. Saying no to a new opportunity may be more damaging than you may think.
Just don’t say no. You never know what that door may lead to.
9. It’s okay to date around.
It doesn’t make you a bad person. Just be careful about who you let into your life.
10. Speaking of bad people, don’t be afraid to cut toxic ones out of your life.
11. Being alone doesn’t mean that you are lonely.
Spending time by yourself can teach you more than you think. Don’t be afraid to go out to eat, see a movie or volunteer alone. Just because you do things alone sometimes doesn’t mean that you are a lonely person – it actually means that you are comfortable with who you are, on your own.
12. Drinking can be fun, but it can also be dangerous, too.
Go out, spend time with friends and have fun. But err on the side of caution. Have a game plan to get home – never get behind the wheel after drinking, even if you “feel fine”. Implement a buddy system with your friends – don’t wander off on your own, especially in an unfamiliar place. And never be afraid to take a drink away from a friend if it’s becoming a hazard to her health. They’ll forgive you in the morning.
13. Settling will never be worth it.
Don’t settle for the significant other who makes you feel just okay and not incredible. Don’t settle for a job that you like but don’t love. Don’t compromise your dreams, ethics and values for someone or something that just aren’t worth it.
14. Mom & dad will (almost) always be right.
And we hate that about them.
15. You’ll regret rushing through life. Enjoy each moment while you can.
16. Taking care of your body at twenty is far more important than you think.
Don’t forget to brush your teeth, quit bad habits and regularly schedule doctors appointments. Don’t take your health for granted just because your young, and don’t purposefully ignore good health practices – trust me, older you will be glad you took care of yourself while you were young.
17. Carefree > Careless
Go with the flow, enjoy life’s little moments. But don’t purposefully be stupid and end up in a bad situation.
18. Choosing passion over paycheck will be worth it.
If you’re going to have to spend the next fifty years doing something, make sure you don’t dread going into work each morning. The average American spends over 109,000 hours at work in their lifetime. Try to make those hours at least worthwhile and stimulating.
19. Never underestimate the power of a kind word, positive thought and a nightly prayer.
20. Happy thoughts will create a happy life.
21. Without a doubt, your twenties will be some of your favorite years. So, make the most of them while you still can.